Information for Young People of Separated Parents
You are here because things are changing at home.
Maybe your mum, dad, or both have told you that they’re going their separate ways. That can feel like a lot. You might feel confused, upset, angry – or even just numb. There’s no right or wrong way to feel.
Sometimes, parents speak to us at EB & Co. Mediation when they’re working out what life looks like after separation. And sometimes, they tell us they’ve talked to you about this too. If they haven’t, you can ask about it.
You have a voice in this, and there is something called Child-Inclusive Mediation where you can talk to someone neutral – just for you.
It’s okay to feel unsettled
Even if you have brothers or sisters, you might feel on your own. You might feel like no one really gets it. But you’re not alone. There are people who can support you.
Talk to someone you trust – maybe:
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A teacher
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A coach
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An aunt, uncle or grandparent
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A friend’s parent
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A school counsellor
You can also stay connected with friends through things like:
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FaceTime or video calls
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Online games and group chats
Helpful Links and Resources
Here are some places that can help:
💬 Support & Advice
📚 Books for Younger Children (11 and under)
You Matter
It might not feel like it right now, but things can get easier. You’re allowed to have questions. You’re allowed to feel how you feel. And you’re allowed to ask to be part of the conversation.
If you’d like to know more about child-inclusive mediation, ask your mum or dad to speak to us – or get in touch directly.
You Can Have a Say
If you’re 10 or older, you can take part in something called Child-Inclusive Mediation. This is a special part of family mediation where you have the chance to speak privately with a trained mediator – someone who isn’t taking sides and isn’t here to judge.
Child-Inclusive Mediation can only happen once your parents have started the mediation process and have had at least one session with a mediator. If everyone agrees it’s the right step, a meeting can then be arranged for you to share your thoughts in a safe and supportive space.
What Is Child-Inclusive Mediation?
It’s a safe, confidential space just for you. You can tell the mediator how you’re feeling about everything that’s going on, and what you think might help.
You won’t be asked to choose between your parents, and nothing you say will be shared with them unless you agree to it.
The mediator’s job is to listen to you and to help your parents understand what life feels like from your point of view – if you want that. Sometimes, just being heard makes a big difference.
Do I Have to Take Part?
No. It’s totally up to you. If your parents are using mediation and you’d like to be involved, you can ask about it. You can also say no if you’d prefer not to talk.
Lots of young people find that having a say – even in a small way – can help things feel a little less out of control.
How Do I Get Started?
Your parents will usually speak to the mediator first, and then the mediator will invite you to have a short meeting if it feels right. It can be in person or online, and you can have someone with you nearby for support.
If you’d like to find out more, just ask your parent to talk to us – or ask a trusted adult to help you get in touch.
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